Visiting with a couple that is very dear to me, I was recently reminded that some of the best self-healing advice you can ever hope to get is from a source most of us tend to ignore. This source knows you better than your own doctor knows you, and sees the emotional roots behind your physical challenges faster than your therapist will discover them.
This source is very likely one you don’t like to listen to in regard to your health and probably should if you truly want to embody your greatest physical well-being.
Your family sees you in a way no one else sees you. They know about the foods you eat that only aggravate your health problems. They know how much exercise you actually get in a day. They know what makes you tense and aggravated, and they know about many of the emotional wounds from your past.
While no one likes to harped at, given the opportunity, most family members would gladly tell you what changes you could make that would help you enjoy a happier life.
Now this kind of advice needs to taken carefully. Some believe that being saved within specific religions or spiritual beliefs is a person’s ticket to health, and if you have read my book, The Root of All Healing, you know that I have not found that belief in any specific religion or spiritual practice is better than an other religion, or even necessary for healing.
Some people swear by allopathic medicine, others by natural medicines, and still others by energy medicine exclusively. I’ve interviewed and observed people that have been healed using a variety of approaches, and I have observed that what works best for one person does not necessarily work well for another.
I’m not suggesting that you listen to and do everything your family recommends. I am suggesting that they often see why you are ill before you do. So often we close out our families views when they often see us more clearly than any one else in our lives.
If we give our loved ones (that can include very close friends as well as family members) a chance to lovingly share what they are seeing, we can get a glimpse into ourselves that can quickly put our lives into perspective.
My husband and I spent a week with a wonderful man that is slowly deteriorating his body. His wife has a very good understanding about why that is happening, both physically and emotionally. It concurred with what I was picking up psychically. But he was resolute in refusing to listen to her.
If he could allow himself to consider and respond to her observations, he would have a focal point for going even deeper, and getting to the emotional trauma that began his journey of physical suffering.
In order for medicines and healing treatments to work well for him, he would need to release the pain of the original trauma.
Sometimes we are so used to the pain, that we simply perpetuate it by continuing down a path of continued self-harm.
It is difficult to go through that and it is difficult for our family. I’ve seen people drive away everyone they loved because they refused to heal the real pain behind it all. They just didn’t want to admit that the real problem was inside them.
If your family has been trying to get through to you, consider, just consider, giving them 10 minutes to tell you what they see about how you are living your life. Ask them to share in a kind and gentle way so that you can actually hear what they can offer you.
And then, if you have the courage, follow-up on their observations, and ask your family for their support as you make some changes in your life. If they love you enough to be with you when you are in your greatest pain, imagine the kind of love and joy you will experience with them as you self-heal.