Over many years of interviewing people that have healed from chronic illnesses, I’ve noticed people who heal adopt a certain mind-set.
It’s really quite simple. They don’t own the illness they are experiencing.
What does that mean? They stop themselves from saying things like, “My cancer,” or “My RA,” or “My Diabetes.” They don’t imply through thought or language that they “own” the illness.
They keep a bit of distance between the illness and themselves. If you own an illness as yours, it can be a little more difficult to release. When you own something, it becomes an identifier of you.
Some of us try to do that with illness. The condition itself starts becoming a way in which you identify yourself. But if, for example, my illness is an experience, then I see how that experience could change.
My illness is an experience I’m having, not a definition of who I am and how I will live.
I know this is a subtle distinction, but it can be a helpful one to understand.
When I knew that the symptoms I was experiencing were caused by MS, I did not allow myself to define my life as a person with MS. I defined myself as a person who needed to take very good care of herself, so that the root of these interesting symptoms could heal.
I didn’t talk about MS. I didn’t tell people I had MS. I told people I was doing deep healing, with the emphasis on taking care of myself so that I could get stronger and healthier. I talked about using my sound healing.
I shared my discoveries in healing, but I never said, “I have MS,” because that sounded like something permanent rather than a transitory experience.
You can learn about the 7 steps I used to heal MS (and later cancer and other conditions) in my book, The Root of All Healing: 7 Steps to Healing Anything, and if you want to get into some hands-on, how-to-heal yourself using the 7 steps, check out my Breakthrough Healing System.
Consider taking a look at how you talk about, and most importantly, identify with your illness. Are there ways in which you could nurture new relationships with whatever illness you are experiencing, so that you address it as something that is passing through?