The significance of becoming your own best healing coach when addressing physical and emotional healing
When you really want to heal physically and emotionally, it can become frustrating as you try one approach after another with little to no results. Perhaps in the beginning you become really excited and hopeful about what a new approach might do for you.
Maybe you start out following the protocols and you notice some small improvements, which gives you a feeling that things could change. Then one day you get busy, and forget to stay with the program. One day is not big deal you tell yourself and get back on track.
But the changes are slow, so you become sporadic. It gets harder to stay on the program, so you give yourself more and more license to go off program, ultimately deciding the approach didn’t work for you
Now there certainly are cases where you discover right away you were allergic to something you were taking, or the treatment was too painful, or you had a Herxheimer reaction and needed to slow down your usage. Certainly, those could be indicators that a methodology is just not right for you.
But when a method starts out working for your physical or emotional healing, and seemingly stops working…
…it could be an indication that you needed to coach yourself through the common pitfalls that prevent healing from happening.
You might need to become the small voice sitting on your own shoulder encouraging you when times get tough, you encounter your fears, or you are being distracted. After all, you know best what is going to motivate you!
Times when you need to be your own best healing coach
The reality is that in order to heal you are going to bump up against perceived limits and frustrations. If there were no limits to your perceptions, you’d be healed already.
When you have limits in your perceptions about whether or not, or how you can heal, it becomes reflected in your behaviors and the choices you make.
If you want to heal, you need new relationships with the perceived limits and limiting behaviors, so that they are no longer blocks to your mind, body or spirit. The irony in healing is that those limits are the gateways to your freedom. As you address them with love, you are creating an optimal environment for both physical and emotional healing.
So, what are the perceptions and behaviors that get in our way?
Here are 8 pitfalls in the healing process that can limit your progress:
- You’ve made some progress, but the progress seems to be slow.
- You need to establish new behaviors by reinforcing better decisions that truly serve you.
- You are tempted by getting immediate gratification from something that is pleasing short term, but detrimental to you long term.
- You are used to putting yourself and your most important needs last, after you’ve attended to everyone else’s needs.
- The new behavioral changes you need to make are difficult. It requires a significant change in diet, habits, or relationships.
- Your immediate family and friends don’t support your course of action.
- Unresolved emotional issues cause you to sabotage your own best efforts, or keep true help at a distance from you.
- Conditions around you aren’t supportive. You need a different job, home, social life, spiritual support, or degree of exposure to electro-magnetic frequencies, chem trails, allergens, etc.
How becoming your own best healing coach can make a difference for you:
Here are some case studies that will give you some ideas about how being your own best health coach could make the difference between suffering and healing for you:
- I once talked with a woman who had been in chronic pain for months. She told me she chose to see her healing as a bridge between now and when she would feel well. She used the image of crossing a bridge during her worst times to coach herself through to wellness.
- A friend of mine coached herself to do a specific meditation one to two times every day. As she meditated, she loved every aspect of her body, mind, emotions and spirit until her chronic depression finally lifted. I talked to her just the other day and after spending 15 years in emotional and physical pain, she joyfully said she feels great physically. She made her breakthrough and she is enjoying it.
- Another friend of mine destroyed his knee in a motorcycle accident. He was told he would probably never walk on his own again. He coached himself to visualize every day for two years until he knew was physically rebuilt and he could walk with ease. He even coached his biker-buddy friends to visualize with him. He ignored their teasing and ridicule and convinced them to visualize his knee whole and well.
Old patterns change when new patterns of behavior are introduced, adopted, and reinforced every day.
Being a healing coach, I know sometimes it really is helpful to get perspectives outside of yourself, especially when you feel stuck. It is wise to expand your perceptions and the creative ways in which to move beyond your limits and reinforce your own healing. In my opinion, a really good healing counselor helps you become your own best healing coach.
Deep within, you know the best ways to inspire yourself to make the changes you need to make for your physical and emotional healing. You know what it takes to motivate yourself through the challenging and distracting moments.
And while it’s wise to receive help and support from healers and professionals, you also need to become your own best healing coach, because you are the person that knows you best.
Michael Olson says
I have been having insights that
blockages are held in moments of
doubt and/or fear. But in spiritual reality there are no moments or
space for them. Even here and now
we can be in the Eternal Now where and when God is ALL and ONE. It is the realm of perfection that surrounds us always. We get there by belief. God says, “MY HEAVEN IS BEING WITH YOU.” That is always true for all of us. “HOW ABOUT BELIEVING YOU HAVE RECEIVED?”
I received these insights in meditation, but I do pop in and out of them. It grows gradually as we
realize there are no barriers but those which we habitually choose. We can let them go!
Misa Hopkins says
Mike, I believe you have elegantly described the true center of any healing-spiritual journey. To remember and live from the memory that God is living through each of us and the only thing that keeps us from that awareness in any moment is doubt and fear. And it is good to be gentle with ourselves in this awareness. It is after all, a journey. There is no destination, only the experience of expanding and contracting in the awareness of our limits and our potential. After all the limits and potential of being human is what we came here to experience. I agree. Heaven is right here in the acceptance/reception of Divine love through all that we experience. I’m loving this conversation today, as I woke up sneezing and coughing with all the grass pollen in the air right now. Ah…more opportunity to fall in love with the Divine in the pollen and in me! Thank you Mike for your perfectly times message. 🙂