Posts Tagged ‘healing secrets’

When Healing Doesn’t Happen

Thursday, August 5th, 2010

This morning, as I was meditating, I had one of those special moments of awakening. As I was in the moment, I remembered that the last time I had a profound experience of awakening, I tried to cling to it, thinking, “I want life to be like this forever.” The moment I attached to the experience, it stopped.

I have found the same to be true in regard to healing. I remember times when I would suddenly feel completely well. I would attempt to attach to it as though I could squeeze that feeling into my body forever. Then minutes later, I would be uncomfortable again and wondering why nothing ever worked.

In reality, something was working. I could feel my wellness. It would have been appropriate to acknowledge how I was feeling and give thanks for it. Where I created an impediment was when I tried to grab on to it and make my body and mind submit to wellness, rather than allow it to simply be.

Energetically this is similar to cupping water in your hand and then squeezing your hand. Of course, the water immediately runs out of your hand. However, if you keep your hand cupped, the water lingers. When you are in a true state of acceptance, the water stays in your hand.

Attempting to make healing happen or hanging on to those moments of wellness doesn’t work. It must be allowed to simply become you. You surrender to the wellness and invite it in openly to have its way with you.

Getting overly excited doesn’t work very well either. Some years ago, I was healing a cut finger—eyes closed, singing to the cut to seal it. At one point I opened my eyes and saw that my sound healing was working. I got very excited and thought, “Oh, this is easy!” From that moment on nothing happened.

I asked my elder and teacher what had happened, and she explained that the moment I got excited, I was basically expressing my disbelief and doubt. She told me that you don’t get excited when you know it is going to work; you just do it. Healing is a matter-of-fact reality when you know, without doubt, that it will happen.

Dr. Artistotle describes the phenomena of excitement and ego quite well in this article: http://www.selfgrowth.com/articles/how-does-perception-affect-healing. As he suggests, sometimes even positive thinking isn’t the kind of positive thinking that helps you become well. He suggests letting go of the “emotional roller-coaster” of being extremely excited or extremely depressed will help accelerate healing.

If you find yourself attempting by matter of will to grab on to healing, impressing it into your being forever; or getting excited and over-confident at the first signs of actual wellness, like me, you are probably going to discover these approaches don’t work, and your healing process actually slows down or can even come to a complete halt.

It is far better to open your heart and body to being well. Then graciously notice when you are feeling better with gratitude. You can feel pleased and grateful, enjoying the moment of your wellness, without trying to grab hold of it or becoming overly excited by it. When you can simply allow wellness to be fully accepted in the moment—letting it settle into your bones—you will discover moments of wellness occurring more and more frequently, until that is your natural state.

Looking for Miracles is Different than Believing in Them

Tuesday, May 11th, 2010

When someone comes to me looking for an instantaneous healing, I know we are not likely to make very much progress. Are you wondering why? Doesn’t it seem to make sense that the more the person is able to believe in instant healing, the more likely it is going to happen?

Indeed, I love to offer healing sounds and support to people that believe in the power of energetic healing because we are most likely to get results. However, there is a difference between believing in miracles and looking for them.

Someone looking for miracles is usually desperately hunting to find a solution. If you have been suffering with an illness or condition, it makes complete sense doesn’t it, that you want relief and you want it now? However, here are some of the kinds of beliefs that typically accompany you when you are on the hunt for a miracle that actually limit miraculous opportunities:

1) Somebody out there must have the answer;
2) Well, that didn’t work right away, so I’ll have to find something else;
3) That healer must not be very powerful because I’m still sick;
4) If nobody can heal it, then maybe I’m just supposed to live with this;
5) Let’s see what this person can do, because the last person I saw didn’t help;
6) God will make me well if he wants me to be well;
7) If I can just find the right cure everything will be okay; and
8) I want somebody to tell me what is going on and how to fix it quickly.

Do any of these beliefs sound familiar to you? If you believe in any of these above ideas or similar ones, you are still hunting for a cure. I used to hunt, and I now understand that seeking was unsuccessfully using up energy that I could have been using to actually heal myself!

Each of us came here to earth with the ability to access inner healing power. Yep, even you! Yes, some of us are more practiced, and some of us get results a little faster, and yes, you do have to devote time and energy into developing your abilities, but they are there.

This is not a gift handed out to a rare few of us and the rest of you just have to scramble to find the right healer and methodology. That would be a pretty sadistic reality, wouldn’t it? Yet, isn’t it interesting how many of us have grown up believing that’s how it works.

You do not have to say exactly the right prayer to God at exactly the right time, making exactly the right sacrifice, catching him/her in a good mood in order to receive a miracle. I know that is what a lot of us grew up believing, and that is not how it works!

With all due respect, that is how children think life works when they are dependent upon their parents. You have to catch mom or dad in the right mood with the right question, and maybe even offer to do something in return, and then you are lucky and you get what you want. Or there you are as a kid, stuck with a problem. So you seek someone else (often an adult) who can help you find the answer to your problem. Sometimes you are really fortunate to find just the right person with the information you are seeking and voila—you have an answer to your problem.

There is nothing wrong with either of these scenarios. They can happen and we have years of evidence demonstrating to us that this is how you manifest what you need.

But what do you do when that doesn’t work anymore? What do you do when you have been to several healers and doctors, and tried scores of treatments and therapies, but you are still feeling bad? Most of us keep looking for an answer somewhere, but in the mean time, we are building up a huge mountain of doubt and disappointment, and that is the energy we personally bring to our own healing.

Miracles don’t actually start outside of you. That’s why looking for them rarely works. Miracles start on inside and are manifested on the outside. Miracles start happening when you reframe your search into one of discovery about your spiritual/healing gift.

You might ask yourself if your hands get hot when you are around people that are ill or you are not feeling well. You might wonder if those songs you have been singing all your life actually have some healing power. Consider whether your ability to visualize so easily might just be a gift you could be applying to your healing starting right now. Maybe you regularly have dreams that are significant and you could be taking a question into your dream-time.

Ask yourself, how the Divine could and does best speak through you. That is where your miracles live. So let me suggest you stop looking for miracles and replace the hunt outside yourself with a deep and meaningful exploration of the real you that is longing to be discovered. Believe in the person that you are and the hidden gifts waiting to be uncovered and used, so that you will be fostering an internal environment of belief where miracles can truly occur.

Eliminating the Internal Complaint Department

Friday, April 30th, 2010

A while back my husband and I were in a class where we were asked to spend a day keeping a tally of how often we complained. I thought I was a pretty positive person so this exercise would be pretty easy to do. Oh my gosh, was I surprised to discover how often I was thinking complaining thoughts, though I wasn’t expressing them. I was complaining all right, just not out loud.

We were also asked to notice our patterns of thoughts. Did we tend to complain about other friends, co-workers, politics, our bodies, our helplessness, injustice, past abuses, lovers, etc.? As the class talked about our various thought patterns, it was amazing to realize that we tended to complain about certain types of events or people in our lives with great consistency.

Once I knew my particular pattern, which was complaining about people that didn’t live up to my expectations, I was able to zero in on my internal complaint department and reduce the number of harmful thoughts I was having.

I consciously attended to the nature of my thoughts. The minute I had a negative or blaming thought, I paused long enough to notice the emotion attached to the thought, and then held that emotion in compassion.

In the end, it didn’t matter whether the emotion was connected to me, another person, a group, a political or spiritual view a situation or a concept, simply holding the emotion in compassion diffused it. Once there was no longer any emotional charge, I could then hold the person, situation or concept in love.

Within days, I noticed a dramatic change in my thought habits. I also noticed a dramatic change in my interactions. Rather than responding to people from assumptions I had drawn, I was more inclined to ask questions that would help me gain greater clarity about them and their situations. Of course, there were times when I was still disappointed, but approaching people with compassion, created space for me to help people work through the challenges they were having that were ultimately leading to my disappointment.

Instead of being cranky, I found myself laughing with them about their foibles, working toward creative solutions, adjusting unreasonable expectations, and using the challenges as opportunities for me to respond in more conscious ways.

As a healer, I know that the more energy we put into negative or limiting thoughts about others or ourselves, the more likely we are to create a limiting and negative reality. The converse, of course, is also true. The more energy we put into loving, caring thoughts, the more we attract that reality into our lives.

If I’m blaming someone or something outside of myself for my illness or if I’m angry with myself for my current state of health, I’m distracting myself from the opportunity to access my personal healing energy. I become so engaged and absorbed in the negative energy and the assumptions that usually come with it that I’m denying myself the kind of pure, compassionate feelings that lead to healing discoveries, assistance and desired outcomes. I know because I’ve done it. I’ve been so angry that I have exacerbated injuries and illness. I have also found enough compassion to love myself into wellness.

The exercise was a great reminder that it is wise to periodically check in on your internal complaint department. If it is still in operation, it might be time to change the energy. Perhaps a well-founded complaint is at times appropriate. Perhaps eliminating the complaint department isn’t necessary, but keeping it down to a level where it isn’t frequent or running our thoughts, can only lead to greater peace and opportunities for solutions to the challenges we face.

How to Set Clear Healing Intentions That Work

Wednesday, February 24th, 2010

fire-copyIt is your responsibility as the receiver of other people’s prayers to set the intention for prayers and energetic forms of spiritual healing that are in alignment with your own your clear desire. That means your intention needs to be very clear.

A clear intention is dependent upon how you feel spiritually strong. Are you someone that visualizes, hears or feels things easily? Do you get strong impressions that are more like knowing something?

Most of us have one or two means of spiritual perception that are strongest for us. If you visualize, you actually see something in your minds eye when someone suggests you imagine, and it is possible your dreams are very vivid.

If you are auditory, you may hear a little voice in the back of your mind or you may hear songs in your mind throughout the day.

Tactile people experience the world through impressions when you touch someone or something. You may find that you are very sensitive to being touched and love the experience of various textures.

If you are empathic, you may find yourself processing your world through your intense and ever-changing emotions.

You may simply sense or know things without consciously engaging your five senses or empathic response.

Some people experience a combination of ways in which you receive spiritual input, or you may experience it in a way I haven’t described here. I recommend you become an explorer of yourself. Discover how spiritual awareness comes to you.

As you set your intention for healing, it will help if you can see, feel, hear, sense or know exactly what healing will be for you. Then multiple times a day, you can affirm exactly the outcome that you want in a way that your spiritual self can best understand it.

For example, if your spiritual medium is visual and you have broken your leg, you will do best to visualize yourself walking. However, if you are auditory, you may want to create an inspiring affirmation or song that you can repeat to yourself throughout the day. If you are tactile, you may want to massage essential oils on to your leg above your cast and sense it becoming well. If you are sensory or empathic, you need to feel physically or emotionally what it will be like when you are walking again.

As you set your intention, also set into your heart, in the present moment, the emotional feeling you will experience when you are completely healed. Nurture this emotional feeling until it becomes part of your daily experience.

Intense emotional pleasure will super-charge your spiritual intention and prayers, giving you the boost you need to bring your intention into complete manifestation.

Receiving Healing Prayers Part II

Wednesday, February 10th, 2010

candlesWhen other people’s prayers can actually limit your healing.

As we discussed in the previous article, it is important to actually open your heart to receive healing prayers from others. As you heart opens, so does your energetic body, allowing the energy, or love and intention, behind the prayer to penetrate into your being.

However, when opening your energy body, you want to be sure that the energy you are receiving is in alignment with your own intentions in order for the prayers and love to have their best effect.

What you don’t want is for them to be in conflict. For example, if someone is praying for you to be spiritually saved through your healing process, and that is not in alignment with your intentions, you may find the belief that accompanies their good wishes, causes you more harm than good as your psychic self struggles with the concept of what it means to be saved.

I’ve actually witnessed this in a healing session. Family members had said prayers for a woman’s healing that were in conflict with her spiritual perspectives. Her healing process was being slowed down because her spiritual body was in conflict around her desire to receive the loving regard of her family while rejecting the religious beliefs that were attached to those prayers.

This experience taught me that it is very important when receiving healing prayers to set the intention regarding exactly what energy and beliefs you are willing to receive.

You can most easily do this by becoming clear about your desired outcome and affirming it daily. You can simultaneously affirm that you gladly receive prayers from others that are in alignment with your clear intention, and without any limiting conditions or perspectives from them.

You can always choose to receive someone’s loving regard for you without their stated intentions or beliefs if you appreciate the love, but their intentions are incongruous with yours. After all, most prayers are intended to be acts of love for ourselves and those we care about. And love alone is powerful healing energy.